"Weddings are such a waste of money."
my thoughts on the worth of beauty.
I've heard this phrase countless times, especially during these past 6 months I've been engaged. I understand where they're coming from, and I agree that weddings are a huge "waste" of money. At least, from a practical, frugal Asian standpoint.
WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU SAW A PIECE OF ARTWORK AND THOUGHT, "THAT MUST HAVE BEEN SUCH A WASTE OF MONEY TO CREATE"?
Probably never right? And if you did, it probably wasn't a very good piece of art (jk lol let's just say it wasn't your style). I view weddings the same way I view any other form of art - as an expression of the artist, meant to transport the viewer to a place of the artist's creation and show them a view they didn't quite see before. I love the unique medium of art that is weddings because I have the opportunity to create an environment that is experienced for a short moment, but is remembered forever.
IS IT WRONG TO SPEND MONEY TO HAVE A BEAUTIFUL WEDDING?
Here is where my post gets personal. Do I feel judged by people for wanting a pretty wedding because I'm surrounded by women at church who have said things like, "I just want a simple wedding", "You're spending HOW much on your wedding?!", "I want to be a good steward of our finances, and not spend too much"? Heck yeah. Are they actually judging me? Probably not (at least I'd like to think not haha). There's also obviously nothing wrong with wanting a simple wedding, or not wanting to spend extravagantly. But inside I wondered, "Is it wrong to want a beautiful wedding? Is it sinful to spend my money, time, and effort on something that will only last for one day? Is it wise?" As I struggled internally over whether it was right or not - if it was God-glorifying or not - to have a beautiful wedding, I realized that I was focusing on what would please man instead of what would please God. God isn't opposed to beauty. It sounds so obvious, but for some reason I was convinced that if my wedding was beautiful, people would think that my wedding was me-glorifying, and not God-glorifying.
SO, WHAT'S THE POINT OF HAVING A BEAUTIFUL WEDDING?
Just as God made beautiful symbols of his covenants throughout Scripture (e.g. the Ark of the Covenant covered in gold in Exodus 25, the rainbow God placed in the sky after the flood in Genesis 9:13), my wedding is a symbol of the start of a marriage covenant and relationship that is meant to be a depiction of the gospel and of the relationship between Christ and the church. If my guests find my wedding beautiful, I hope that it would be because they see an expression of God's handiwork, a beautiful creation that points to its beautiful Creator. Just as "the heavens declare the glory of God, and the sky above proclaims his handiwork" (Psalm 19:1), I hope that with what I create, using what God has provided for me, I would worship the God in whose image I was created. If working hard to make my wedding beautiful is glorifying to God, is it worth it? Heck yes.